So this was my year … 2017

I just can’t believe this … it’s already January 4th. Where did the last 4 days go? It’s going so fast again. *so shocking*

A year full of changes

If I have to discripe my year 2017 with ONLY one word, it will be … CHANGES !

As a girl on the autistic spectrum, I have to say : “I HATE CHANGES”. It’s so hard for me to deal with new things that are coming to me without I asked for it.

So last year was very hard for me. A lot of changes in every part of my life. Here’s some more about everything …

1. Work

At the end of 2016, I got more and more tasks to do at my old office. My work hours and workdays to do all the things didn’t changed. So more work, and more stress.

All that work ended up with longer workdays. I started at my office at 7.30 am and most of the days I left at 5.15 pm. More than I should be there, but there was no alternative.

My old workplace was not in my area, but near Brussels. So in the mornings I had to leave home and take the train at 6.15 am (every single workday). Most of the days I came home at 7 pm.

As I don’t have a drivers licence, I had to take public transportation like the train and the bus. That combination of trains and busses was horrible.

A lot of stress before work of all the people in the train/bus, than a stressy day at work, and going back with more stress because I was always late at home.

In November 2016 most problems started again like the symptons of an autistic burn-out. But in January 2017 I was ready to get some more help, and I was able to have a positive feeling about the new year. I was planning of searching a new job, closer to home.

Than February 2017 came … The announcement of around 70 people will lose their job in March. So horrible. Together with my depression feelings and that new I got very ill (mentally).

In March I knew I was one of the ‘lucky’ people who was going to lose their job in June. When I got the news I was okay with it. About 15 minutes later, when I saw my colleagues I crashed. Than I realized I had to leave all of them behind and leave the work I loved to do.  change # 1

After taking a long break I didn’t had to go back to work, so May 18 was my last day. A month earlier.

During 3 months I got some amazing support from a extern company here in Belgium to find a new job. As an accountant there are still plenthy of jobs in my area, and still receiving invitations for jobs.

I decided that with my autism (together with my psychiatrist and psychologist) I could work a fulltime job in an office the following months. So time for a new plan. I really love fashion and more I really like shoes.

If I had to search for a new job, I wanted to do something where I can share my passion for shoes and fashion with others.  So I went searching for a job as a shoeseller or fashion advisor (I have a diploma ‘fashion advisor’).

After some tests and interviews I found THE MOST AMAZING job in the world. I started to work in my favorite shoestore. I can talk about shoes all day long. I’m now so happy when I can go to work.

This new job (a new big change) change # 2 changed my life in a positive way. I’m so GRATEFUL for the change I got to work for this amazing team of colleagues ! It’s just like working in a store full of family or friends.

Okay … working in a shoestore is so hard when you have less money because you work parttime. You know what I mean … putting a shoelover in a shoestore is like a kid in a candy store ! It’s so hard!

2. Family

Another change in my life last year. In May I had to say goodbye to my grandma. It was so hard, after knowing here my whole life. As a farmers daughter we always were together here.  change # 3

That with losing my job in March was so hard that I crashed at work when I got the message she past away.  But with some great mental help, I had giving it a place. Not having to go back to work was also a great thing.

Now in January I still have some difficult moments, but that’s everything here reminds me of her (she lived her too).

3. Building a house

Can you guess it? Oh yes another big change. After hunting for the perfect house for years, I started to build (let it build by great people) my own house. Just a little house, but it’s all new, and all the things I like are there.

I had to change to create it the way that I wanted it to be. So now I have the outside looking like the grey bricks of the Cinderella castle at Magic Kingdom in Walt Disney World.  (will post some pictures later, as it’s not whole finished at this day).

This is change # 4 , and it’s going to be a big CHANGE in this year. Hoping to move out after living here at home for 33 years! I’m now going to move to my own place with my 2 beloved cats.

I hope we can be happy there all on ourselfs (me and the cats).

4. Starting a blog

In January 2017 I started a blog here on WordPress (called AutiLucy) about my life at that moment and all the problems I had living my autistic life.

During all those months I was not that ‘happy’ blog.

I took me till June to feel better and better and started to live a happier life again. Left all my previous problems behind.

So my life changed, got my happy life back. I never felt that happy in years ! I was so done with posting on my old blog, because it was a daily remember of all the bad things that happend the past months.

A fresh start in my life, so a fresh start in blogging ! change # 5

In october I started to use Twitter again to share my daily story with people who were kind to me and were interested in my store. So also a THANK YOU to you reading my blog at the moment. I means so much to me.

Day after day I feel so much better when I can blog. It’s like I found of way to talk to people, to share my story, found somebody to listen to me.

5. Losing colleagues, friends

In 2017 I lost the colleagues I loved to work with. But when going to a weekly appointement of ‘outplacement’ I felt better. Now that all of that is over, I kind of miss them. change # 6

During the months of 2017 I also lost some friends. First they stopped talking to me, but hey I’m over that now.

I have a few friends and now I have the amazing colleagues where I can talk to. Oh now I’m putting ‘have’, hope that in don’t have to put ‘had’ in a few weeks as my contract is almost finished. But I will still go shop there, so will see them for sure.

6. Losing weight

At the end of all the changes 2017 gave me. It also gave me the change of losing weight again. I lost 17 kg from January till August. Just eating healthier, making healthier choices. change # 7

The weight came on because of all the medication I had to take for my depression / autistic burn-out. I still take some of that medication but I eat less and drink more water.

I’m also became a big fan of Noimi Smart and since I have here first cookbook I’m all into eating better.

I stopped eating meat, and trying to eat more veggies.

As part of my autism, I have some problems with eating. I eat things in an order, start my day with the same breakfast every single day. If I liked something to eat, I can eat that for days, till the moment I had enough.

On days I work till 7 pm I don’t eat a warm (good) meal, but now I trying to eat a healthy wrap with spinach.

7. Parttime job, parttime money

After working a fulltime job for more than 10 years, I started to work a parttime job. I was used to buy the things I like. To buy the parfum and make-up I wanted and that was so good, but so expensive (looking at it now).  change # 8

Now I have half the budget, but not half the costs in my life. Guess that part of bills will never change. You always have to pay the bills and bills are still coming. So shocking. But the truth.

Now I have to look at things I want for weeks, plan it, make a budget and safe a lot of money (a lot of money).

Not buying the shoes you like, when you’re working in a shoestore. SO yeah it’s a hard life having a budget. Plan for 2018 is to find a way to get more money but not having to work outside the house for a fulltime job. Doing a parttime job as extra from here at home, that will work for me. No stress of public transportation which made my days so bad.

8. What about 2018?

Well, 2018 will be another year with big changes. But now I feel happy and for the first time I’m okay with all the new things coming my way. Kind of strange to say that I’m feeling okay with changes in my life.

Here are some changes that are coming to me in the next months:

  • some hospital appointements coming soon, and it’s pretty scary for me.
  • can I stay at my job or not? searching a new job or not?
  • decorating my new home
  • preparing my cats to move
  • moving out
  • hospital for some test for fibromyalgia or ???
  • finding an extra job or find a way to become a freelance blogger or writer, or trying to life from my blog. Can’t live my life with less money because of my fulltime job.
  • starting a budget planner to start safe money

Probably more changes coming, but you’ll be the first to know it.

 

I’m ending my blog here. Enough changes to talk about. In every single part of my life I had to make changes.

Love Lucy xx

If you have some tips on how to get more money as a blogger, freelancer, etc from home, please let me know.

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Blogmas 2 … making a budget planner

December 2nd, 2017

A new month has started yesterday and so does this Blogmas. Well, as you might have seen on my Twitter or on my blog I kind of like clothes and shoes a lot. Besides that I’m curently building my own house here in Belgium (euhm people are doing it for me 😉 ).

With all the cost I have with moving in February I need a good plan for my upcoming budget.

Planning my budget with an app on my iPhone doesn’t work for me. I need something to hold to, something where I can draw on, somenthing that I really have in my hand.

For weeks now I have in mind of doing this but I always said “I’ll do that tomorrow”. Honestly that day ‘tomorrow’ never came. *shame on me*

Today is the day !

Now it’s the time to start working on a budgetplanner that really works for me. You may not like the lay-out of my plan, but I guess that this will work for me.

Time for a pink notebook, because I just adore pink 😉

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After a long day at work and feeling really tired I found the energy to make me a budgetplanner.

Here are some pictures of how I’m making my budgetplanner. At this moment it’s not finished yet, but the idea is on paper and I can work with it.

After creating a lay-out I started to fill in all the money I earn each month and all my expenses on the other side of the paper.

Most monthly expenses I know like the money I have to pay for my house, the gas, the electricity, my monthly appointment with my psychiatrist and psychologist (which I need) and medication.

What’s left I need to buy other bills, pay for food, pay for catfood (and cattoys), and clothes/shoes. So many budget is not left.

I work a parttime job now because of my autism I can’t work a fulltime job at this moment (and maybe never again). So I lost quite a big amount of money every month buy working parttime and doing a job as a shoeseller insteat of an accountant.

Living on my own will be a big step, but it will be a lot of counting my money and making budget for things I want to buy. Insteat of just buying what I like whenever I want/need it.

It’s so hard living in Belgium with an disorder that makes you only work a partime job and not having an extra support. I’ve tried a fulltime job for  years but I was always so sick because of all the stress and the public transport to work. Now I have a job close to me, which I like very much … AND I can talk about shoes every minute of my workday. I’m not a prisoner of my job anymore. Besides I feel great, my future life will be on a budget.

Payday is on monday and then the counting will start. I have some great tips received when I was asking for help for spending less money.

Leaving my cards at home, only paying with cash, and writing everything down.

But it’s Christmas soon?

Christmas in my family will be a sad period so we will not spending a lot of money (it will be the first Christmas without my grandma). As we will not give presents to a lot of family, I will give myself a little present. Something that will get me through the Holiday weeks.

So this Christmas I will only spend 96 EUR for a pair of boots I wanted since summer. They are priced 120 EUR in store but I have a discount as a member of the team.

Boots met Studs Zwart Bullboxer

Maybe you should think, ‘why not saving those 96 EUR insteat of buying boots’? But that’s the autistic me that is talking of taking the boots because I really wanted them for months now. I’ve been brave over the weeks/months and not bought them the first time I saw them online.

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I always find good shoes/boots in fall or winter season. When it’s spring or summer I can only wear my Converse All Stars or Vans. Shoes like sandals are horrible for this autistic girl.

Birthday is coming tooooo

Oh yess my birthday is coming in January, the month before I’m going to move to my new house. For my birthday I already know what I want … new UGG mini boots (in pink) for in my new house. My stairway will not be finished when I’m going to move, so I need some good comfy shoes for in the house.

I really wanted these for a few weeks now, so that will be a hudge thing in my budgetplanner for next month. Still hoping for a few EUR for NewYear (we give presents on NewYears day too). Oh and with a discount from work, it will not be that shocking !

These are the ones …

More tips?

Do you have more tips about using a budgetplanner that works? Or do you have a picture of a great budgetplanner (on paper) that you use?

Please no negative reactions about saving the money for the shoes for something else. Having autism is hard if your plans (things you want for a long time) are not coming true.

Thanks!  Love Lucy xx